ARG! my ex husband is re-married!!!
I do not know why this bothers me but it sure as shit does! He finally shows up with the monster at 4pm today after all the drama of not being able to leave on time then the fight we had yesterday where he called me an irresponsible parent b/c he claims I sent the kid with wholly cloths and cloths that didn't fit. Although he has let the health insurance lapse again but he is not irresponsible???? ARG!!!
So back to the marriage thing...why does he get another happy ending?
What the hell did I do wrong so that I cannot find even someone to date? I am online and nothing, I am active in my church and nothing, I go out with the girls and nothing. What should I be doing? I am just annoyed right now. Why why why?????
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Oh the drama!!
The ex has struck again. For the purpose of this blog he will be referred to as captain Jack short for captain Jackass!
How it all started this week:
Wednsday I get a call from the monster and it goes something like this:
"Hi Mama, I will be leaving GA at 5 on Friday, I will see you some time Sunday"
Me: 5pm?
Him: "yes"
Me: "so you won't be here on Friday like you were supposed to"
him: no
Me: "can I talk to your father?
him: "he's at work"
Me: "is his girlfriend around?"
him: "she's sleeping"
Me: "wonderful"
Call ends after a little bit more useless conversation.
I am fuming at this point so I call captain jack at work to find out what is going on. He tells me that I don't need the monster back until Monday so what is the big deal. The big deal??? Is that you didn't have the courtsey to tell me things had changed. He tells me that he got stuck working b/c someone quit, ok that is fine I understand that and had he told me I would have been annoyed but now I am pissed.
Mind you I have been fuming since finding this out. I want to talk to captain again but he is always working so I can't. Since I am mad I decide I need to talk to him about health insurrance since he is supposed to cover the monster.
Today I call and talk to the monster and ask if his father is around and of course captain is no where to be found so I talk to the girlfriend. I explain that the reason I am pissed is b/c I had to ask when the monster would be coming home and he didn't tell me things changed. I understand stuff happens. Well she lets slip out that the reason they aren't leaving until late is b/c...SHE has to work until 3pm and then HER kids aren't getting picked up until around 5pm. She told me she told captain to just bring the monster home without but he said no. I believe this b/c he cannot stand to be away from his significant other. Maybe he is afraid she will wise up and see that he is a no good little man that cannot make it on his own and is full of bullshit and whines too much and doesn't take responsibility for his own actions.
Sorry for the tangent...
Back to the conversation with the girlfriend. I tell her that I still need to talk to captain about health insurrance b/c he was supposed to have it for the monster 2 months ago and she simply states he didn't get it. So I tell her, its in the agreement that he will take care of that and he needs to have the common curtsey to tell me these things and not make me ask.
So now I am livid!!!!! LIVID!!!! I will be putting together all the information I have and taking him to court for repayment of past crap I have paid for the 60% of out of pocket medical expenses from when he lost his job before. Also I want full custody, this isn't working anymore and he isn't making any effort.
Last year I said I wouldn't send the monster to GA again and now I am sure of it. I plan to sign the monster up for baseball which means he won't be available until around the fourth then I want him to go to church camp which will put him not being available until the 3rd or 4th week in July and I will find something else for him to do as well so that it if he goes down he only gets 2-3 weeks. Then if the monster fights me, I am siding with him! I am done being nice!
Now this is posted as a reminder to myself when I start being nice, please remind me about this so I go through with it.
How it all started this week:
Wednsday I get a call from the monster and it goes something like this:
"Hi Mama, I will be leaving GA at 5 on Friday, I will see you some time Sunday"
Me: 5pm?
Him: "yes"
Me: "so you won't be here on Friday like you were supposed to"
him: no
Me: "can I talk to your father?
him: "he's at work"
Me: "is his girlfriend around?"
him: "she's sleeping"
Me: "wonderful"
Call ends after a little bit more useless conversation.
I am fuming at this point so I call captain jack at work to find out what is going on. He tells me that I don't need the monster back until Monday so what is the big deal. The big deal??? Is that you didn't have the courtsey to tell me things had changed. He tells me that he got stuck working b/c someone quit, ok that is fine I understand that and had he told me I would have been annoyed but now I am pissed.
Mind you I have been fuming since finding this out. I want to talk to captain again but he is always working so I can't. Since I am mad I decide I need to talk to him about health insurrance since he is supposed to cover the monster.
Today I call and talk to the monster and ask if his father is around and of course captain is no where to be found so I talk to the girlfriend. I explain that the reason I am pissed is b/c I had to ask when the monster would be coming home and he didn't tell me things changed. I understand stuff happens. Well she lets slip out that the reason they aren't leaving until late is b/c...SHE has to work until 3pm and then HER kids aren't getting picked up until around 5pm. She told me she told captain to just bring the monster home without but he said no. I believe this b/c he cannot stand to be away from his significant other. Maybe he is afraid she will wise up and see that he is a no good little man that cannot make it on his own and is full of bullshit and whines too much and doesn't take responsibility for his own actions.
Sorry for the tangent...
Back to the conversation with the girlfriend. I tell her that I still need to talk to captain about health insurrance b/c he was supposed to have it for the monster 2 months ago and she simply states he didn't get it. So I tell her, its in the agreement that he will take care of that and he needs to have the common curtsey to tell me these things and not make me ask.
So now I am livid!!!!! LIVID!!!! I will be putting together all the information I have and taking him to court for repayment of past crap I have paid for the 60% of out of pocket medical expenses from when he lost his job before. Also I want full custody, this isn't working anymore and he isn't making any effort.
Last year I said I wouldn't send the monster to GA again and now I am sure of it. I plan to sign the monster up for baseball which means he won't be available until around the fourth then I want him to go to church camp which will put him not being available until the 3rd or 4th week in July and I will find something else for him to do as well so that it if he goes down he only gets 2-3 weeks. Then if the monster fights me, I am siding with him! I am done being nice!
Now this is posted as a reminder to myself when I start being nice, please remind me about this so I go through with it.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Interesting story
http://www.wbaltv.com/news/20124542/detail.html
This is a story I saw on the news tonight and had to look it up. Three Baltimore boys ages 7,8, and 11 were arrested for stealing from their neighbor. They were handcuffed, taken in a paddy wagon to the juvenile detention center and held for about 2 hours.
Part of me thinks this is a pretty good idea b/c they will hopefully learn early that their are consequences for their actions. But another part of me thinks they are too young to be arrested. However the question arises if they had not been caught by police would they have continued down this path? One of the children is quotes as saying he and his friends saw his neighbors bikes, scooter, and go-kart and decided to take them. Why did they think it was a good idea to take something that wasn't theirs? It boggles my mind. I saw a clip of one of the moms talking and she didn't seem to get that her son did wrong and should be punished.
I am trying to think about what I would do if the monster was to get into trouble for stealing and I know I would be embarrassed but I think I would support the cops b/c they were following the rules and my child was not. I am still at odds with how I feel but it is interesting...
This is a story I saw on the news tonight and had to look it up. Three Baltimore boys ages 7,8, and 11 were arrested for stealing from their neighbor. They were handcuffed, taken in a paddy wagon to the juvenile detention center and held for about 2 hours.
Part of me thinks this is a pretty good idea b/c they will hopefully learn early that their are consequences for their actions. But another part of me thinks they are too young to be arrested. However the question arises if they had not been caught by police would they have continued down this path? One of the children is quotes as saying he and his friends saw his neighbors bikes, scooter, and go-kart and decided to take them. Why did they think it was a good idea to take something that wasn't theirs? It boggles my mind. I saw a clip of one of the moms talking and she didn't seem to get that her son did wrong and should be punished.
I am trying to think about what I would do if the monster was to get into trouble for stealing and I know I would be embarrassed but I think I would support the cops b/c they were following the rules and my child was not. I am still at odds with how I feel but it is interesting...
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Accountablility
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31920273/
If you read this article pay attention to the last paragraph. It made me laugh that neither the bank nor credit card company will answer how this happened and each points the finger at the other, makes me think this is the reason why there is a partnership between banks and credit card companies so that neither is help accountable for issues.
In this case I think it was an input error at the store but funny how neither one would say anything...
If you read this article pay attention to the last paragraph. It made me laugh that neither the bank nor credit card company will answer how this happened and each points the finger at the other, makes me think this is the reason why there is a partnership between banks and credit card companies so that neither is help accountable for issues.
In this case I think it was an input error at the store but funny how neither one would say anything...
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Life
As I sit here tonight watching the boob tube and playing around online I miss the monster soo much! I know I only have 23 days until he comes home but feels like to long. I actually mapquested from my town to where he is at, its only 12 hours away. I could leave tomorrow night after work, stop off at my friends, 6 hours away and then continue to him on Friday afternoon. Spend Sat with him and head back Sat night. It would be a whirl win trip and I would not be able to celebrate the 4th at all but I would be able to see him.
I know this is a crazy idea and I would need at least another day to not feel so rushed. I don't want to spend an evening at my ex's house so I would need to find a place to stay. Logistically this is a horrible idea but right now at home with my cats watching me it feels like a pretty good one.
I have spent the past 3 weeks busy as hell and rarely home and now I see why...this sucks!!!
I also just accepted a new position with a friends company so I will not have the luxury of the time to go get him if that is needed. I am nervous about this new job, I know its fear of the unknown that is bugging me but its still bugging me.
Yep being home and not busy SUCKS!!!!
I know this is a crazy idea and I would need at least another day to not feel so rushed. I don't want to spend an evening at my ex's house so I would need to find a place to stay. Logistically this is a horrible idea but right now at home with my cats watching me it feels like a pretty good one.
I have spent the past 3 weeks busy as hell and rarely home and now I see why...this sucks!!!
I also just accepted a new position with a friends company so I will not have the luxury of the time to go get him if that is needed. I am nervous about this new job, I know its fear of the unknown that is bugging me but its still bugging me.
Yep being home and not busy SUCKS!!!!
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
And it starts...
I know I said I wouldn't let the monster go see his dad again after last year but I really don't have much of a choice. However I did let his father know my stipulations about the vehicle and daycare.
The monster left on Friday, he flew down with his Grandmother. And today the saga begins. All I can do is laugh but at first I was really annoyed.
The monster calls me from his grandmother's phone today and when I asked where his phone was he told me he father took it with him to work! Are you kidding me? I do not pay monthly for his father to use the phone I pay so that I can have as little contact with his father as possible!
So I called the monsters phone and his dad tried to tell me the monster left it in the car, no he didn't! Then when he heard that I didn't believe him he told me the truth that he is using it while he is at work. So I calmly and nicely explained I pay for the phone so I can talk to the monster not my ex husband! I asked if this is going to be a continuing thing while the monster is with him and he said it isn't. I don't believe him at all.
I am so frustrated by this. When my ex left he was making double what I was making but didn't bother to pay me any type of child support or even take the monster very often. I did it all while I was still in college! I have worked my tail off to get to where I am and to make sure I can have the things I want and can afford to treat my son. I have only started getting child support this year, we split up in 2005!!!! It took almost 4 years to get the child support thing worked out and only because I went and filed for it. Now the ex has dropped his health insurrance so my son doesn't have any at present. I am probably going to have to put him on my policy which will eat up most of the money I am getting for child support, wonderful!!!
I did not get myself pregnant, I did not decide on my own to keep the child so where does he get off deciding he is done after 4 years? And where does he get off thinking I will take this lying down! ARG!!!!!
I guess stay tuned for the rest of this story since I am sure it's not completely over....
The monster left on Friday, he flew down with his Grandmother. And today the saga begins. All I can do is laugh but at first I was really annoyed.
The monster calls me from his grandmother's phone today and when I asked where his phone was he told me he father took it with him to work! Are you kidding me? I do not pay monthly for his father to use the phone I pay so that I can have as little contact with his father as possible!
So I called the monsters phone and his dad tried to tell me the monster left it in the car, no he didn't! Then when he heard that I didn't believe him he told me the truth that he is using it while he is at work. So I calmly and nicely explained I pay for the phone so I can talk to the monster not my ex husband! I asked if this is going to be a continuing thing while the monster is with him and he said it isn't. I don't believe him at all.
I am so frustrated by this. When my ex left he was making double what I was making but didn't bother to pay me any type of child support or even take the monster very often. I did it all while I was still in college! I have worked my tail off to get to where I am and to make sure I can have the things I want and can afford to treat my son. I have only started getting child support this year, we split up in 2005!!!! It took almost 4 years to get the child support thing worked out and only because I went and filed for it. Now the ex has dropped his health insurrance so my son doesn't have any at present. I am probably going to have to put him on my policy which will eat up most of the money I am getting for child support, wonderful!!!
I did not get myself pregnant, I did not decide on my own to keep the child so where does he get off deciding he is done after 4 years? And where does he get off thinking I will take this lying down! ARG!!!!!
I guess stay tuned for the rest of this story since I am sure it's not completely over....
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
GROSS JUST PLAIN GROSS!!
Today during my lunch break I had some errands to run. One of which brought me right across the street from my dad's job so I called to see if he wanted lunch, he didn't but said to stop by. He wasn't in his office when I got there so another woman helped me. She asked who I was here for when I said my dads name she asked if I was his wife. OMFG! are you kidding me!
1. I look 12!! I get carded all the time 2. I look just like my dad! come on now. So when I got skeeved out and told her I was his daughter she responded sorry I have only met your brother. again are f--ing kidding me??? One of my brothers is 22 the other is 19 there is no way in hell I look old enough to be a parent to that age child! So grossed out!!!
When my dad comes down the hall the lady tells him she thought I might be his wife and even he said are you kidding me I am not a cradle robber, that's my daughter.
So that was my lovely day, I am still skeeved out and want to go home and to bed and forget this idiotic woman!!!
1. I look 12!! I get carded all the time 2. I look just like my dad! come on now. So when I got skeeved out and told her I was his daughter she responded sorry I have only met your brother. again are f--ing kidding me??? One of my brothers is 22 the other is 19 there is no way in hell I look old enough to be a parent to that age child! So grossed out!!!
When my dad comes down the hall the lady tells him she thought I might be his wife and even he said are you kidding me I am not a cradle robber, that's my daughter.
So that was my lovely day, I am still skeeved out and want to go home and to bed and forget this idiotic woman!!!
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