The monster has been home now for just over 2 weeks. It took until about this week for him to start acting up...lol longer than I thought. I am happy he is home!!! I know he is safe, I know where he is at all times and I can see him whenever I want. All good things. However this weekend I have been jonesin' to get out of the house on my own so bad. I just want to go out and be irresponsible for a night. Not totally irresponsible, just come home late after a night of fun oohhh and not have to get up the following morning b/c he is up and hungry or up or bored or whatever. Ok so had to share.
Also an update on the ex factor: he didn't bring the monster back to me until 10:30 on the 3rd, I had said I wanted the monster back by 7/4. Looks like the ex just made that deadline. Well when he comes he bring the girlfriends 3 kids too b/c the monster wanted them to spend the night. Well they left at 8:30 the next morning so I didn't have the extras for too long.
However in the 2 months the ex has been living with the new GF I have seen no child support, this isn't really a surprise b/c he barely paid while he was here but it is so much more infuriating b/c now that a$$hole is helping out someone else and her kids when he has a biological kid he ran away from. I am so mad about this and have let him know this a number of times. So this week my plan is take a field trip down to the child support enforcement office and sign me some paperwork :)
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Sunday, June 29, 2008
The monster is coming, the monster is coming...
My son is coming home this week. I have completely mixed feelings about this which makes me feel like an ass. I had my son when I was 18 so I never really got to be a young adult and go and come as I please, unencumbered. I feel like ass b/c I am a little disappointed that this time is coming to an end. My dad was giving me shit b/c for the next 3 days I have plans after work so there is no time for my parents to come over and help me with the bunk bed I want to have for him as a surprise. But in reality when am I going to have this opportunity again? I am not sending my child to GA again the situation down there is not to my liking, they drive around 6 people in a 5 passenger car, they do not have daycare so some days the monster stays in the hotel his dad's gf works at, and I don't want him 4 states away!!!
So I will be back in mommy mode in 4 days. I love my son and cannot wait to see him but I also like being able to go out. I know that I have family that will help me out but really are they going to do it without bitching or getting on my case about going out to much. I am pretty mad at his dad for leaving the state. He had finally started taking the monster on weekends and when I had meetings during the week he would watch him and now he's gone so it's back to trying to negotiate babysitters and what not. I think his mom would help if I asked but I really hate to ask. Blah!!
Well in four days I will be back to mom mode, ready or not...
So I will be back in mommy mode in 4 days. I love my son and cannot wait to see him but I also like being able to go out. I know that I have family that will help me out but really are they going to do it without bitching or getting on my case about going out to much. I am pretty mad at his dad for leaving the state. He had finally started taking the monster on weekends and when I had meetings during the week he would watch him and now he's gone so it's back to trying to negotiate babysitters and what not. I think his mom would help if I asked but I really hate to ask. Blah!!
Well in four days I will be back to mom mode, ready or not...
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Random Post
I have a confession to make...I am a fan of Julia Stiles. I have a number of her movies. I like silly teen dramas and she did a few of them. I have noticed an annoying trend with her movies...they are doing remakes without her and they SUCK!!!! I have The Prince and Me which is a cute movie and now there is The Prince and Me 2 without her and it blows!!! I mean the whole character is different and just not good. I rented that one thinking it would be a good Saturday watch and was so mad I spent money on it! I should have waited for ABC Family to play it, it is that crappy.
Tonight I was flicking channels and came across Save the Last Dance 2 I did not see the whole thing but again what I saw was just not good. Come on now people come up with knew movie ideas please. I am tired of seeing crappy remakes. I realize that the movies I am using as an example are not exactly masterpieces but I like them and want to see them left alone.
Tonight I was flicking channels and came across Save the Last Dance 2 I did not see the whole thing but again what I saw was just not good. Come on now people come up with knew movie ideas please. I am tired of seeing crappy remakes. I realize that the movies I am using as an example are not exactly masterpieces but I like them and want to see them left alone.
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Wrestling
So my child went to GA a few weeks back with his dad to visit the new GF and if that wasn't bad enough my child came back with a new obsession...wrestling. Just blah!!! I am sooo tired of it! He now has to be home on Fridays at 8pm to watch friday night whatever. We weren't home last night and he was so mad b/c he missed so first thing this morning he had to get online and read about what happened. So as I am helping him he was saying "oh man I can't believe I missed it, it was like the best night ever" OMG! are you kidding me. Today we were running errands and we went to Target where he bought himself an Undertaker t-shirt. I am just not in the mood for this obsession, I would much rather go back to spiderman. I hope this doesn't last long...
Bank encounter
So I just went to this credit union today to deposit my rent check and OMG!!! It was ridiculous!! I went inside b/c I didn't have a deposit slip and I walk in to the strangest thing I have ever seen. Instead of having a teller line like a normal bank they decided to have these phone booth looking things. I went to inquire about this and was told that the tellers are in a remote area and that you send the check like you would in a drive thru. What is that about? It was the strangest thing I have ever seen. Just thought I would share b/c it was to unreal to believe.
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Stupid car
ARG!!!
When my ex and I split our agreement said that he would take care of his car and I would take care of mine. Pretty standard. But (because there is always a but) his car loan is in my name and his, mine first (my car is in mine and my dad's so no prob there). We did not title his car in both names so basically we are co-debters but not co-owners, I have no claim to the car.
It all started out well, he paid for his car but that didn't last long. He was a year into the loan when we split, I have been getting calls from the loan people for 2 years b/c of late payments or non-payments. The worst part about all of this is his payment was $225.47 a month. How cheap is that?????????
The car was a lease thing and when we bought it we planned to buy it out right at the end of the lease. He still wanted to do that but when you don't pay they will not give you another loan. The car was supposed to be turned in 4/15 and he did NOTHING for it. Again I started getting calls.
Well it turns out the car wasn't moving b/c someone had tried to break into it and had messed with the ignition. He let it sit for months, didn't call insurrance or anything.
I went to the dealership to ask for help, the know the situation. My mistake was not following up on it b/c the captain did NOTHING to try and keep the car. I finally got him to tow the thing into the shop so they can fix it and he told me he called his insurrance turns out that is all a lie!!! I don't even think he has insurrance. So who is going to pay for this??? Where am I going to get the money to pay for this? I don't want to ask my parents for money I am an adult. I paid off a credit card this year, I was so happy to have that done but it looks like I am going back in debt to pay for his pure laziness and stupidity. I am sooo mad right now that I fully intend to get all of this in writing and take his happy ass to court for #1 contempt and #2 to get my money back. This is not fair, I know life isn't fair but I didn nothing to him. I took my debt when I left, I helped him out even. How could he be so irrisponsible????
I cannot wait for him to go to Georgia b/c I cannot stand looking at him, the thought that I am going to have to talk to him today is horrifing. My son is going to be around so I am going to have to be nice. I do not want to be one of those parents who bashes the other one but I am sooo almost there. I am soo upset right now!!!!
I am happy that this is the last tie I have to this man finacially but so pissed that he cannot take care of his business and leaves it up to others to take care of. Then gets mad if you "judge" him. Well what do you expect? Do you think that there is a magic fairy out there that is going to come over and take care of you? No you mo-ron that is not the case, you need to step up and grow some balls!!!
When my ex and I split our agreement said that he would take care of his car and I would take care of mine. Pretty standard. But (because there is always a but) his car loan is in my name and his, mine first (my car is in mine and my dad's so no prob there). We did not title his car in both names so basically we are co-debters but not co-owners, I have no claim to the car.
It all started out well, he paid for his car but that didn't last long. He was a year into the loan when we split, I have been getting calls from the loan people for 2 years b/c of late payments or non-payments. The worst part about all of this is his payment was $225.47 a month. How cheap is that?????????
The car was a lease thing and when we bought it we planned to buy it out right at the end of the lease. He still wanted to do that but when you don't pay they will not give you another loan. The car was supposed to be turned in 4/15 and he did NOTHING for it. Again I started getting calls.
Well it turns out the car wasn't moving b/c someone had tried to break into it and had messed with the ignition. He let it sit for months, didn't call insurrance or anything.
I went to the dealership to ask for help, the know the situation. My mistake was not following up on it b/c the captain did NOTHING to try and keep the car. I finally got him to tow the thing into the shop so they can fix it and he told me he called his insurrance turns out that is all a lie!!! I don't even think he has insurrance. So who is going to pay for this??? Where am I going to get the money to pay for this? I don't want to ask my parents for money I am an adult. I paid off a credit card this year, I was so happy to have that done but it looks like I am going back in debt to pay for his pure laziness and stupidity. I am sooo mad right now that I fully intend to get all of this in writing and take his happy ass to court for #1 contempt and #2 to get my money back. This is not fair, I know life isn't fair but I didn nothing to him. I took my debt when I left, I helped him out even. How could he be so irrisponsible????
I cannot wait for him to go to Georgia b/c I cannot stand looking at him, the thought that I am going to have to talk to him today is horrifing. My son is going to be around so I am going to have to be nice. I do not want to be one of those parents who bashes the other one but I am sooo almost there. I am soo upset right now!!!!
I am happy that this is the last tie I have to this man finacially but so pissed that he cannot take care of his business and leaves it up to others to take care of. Then gets mad if you "judge" him. Well what do you expect? Do you think that there is a magic fairy out there that is going to come over and take care of you? No you mo-ron that is not the case, you need to step up and grow some balls!!!
Sunday, May 18, 2008
Moving...
No not me my ex aka my baby daddy.
He told my last Sunday, yes Happy Mothers day to me, and I feel like it took me a week to digest the idea. Yes I have dreamed of him leaving, I won't lie, but I thought it would have been when we first split. Not now, now that he is finally starting to work with me and do the every other weekend thing and watch him for me when I have meetings. He was actually trying and now now he decides to leave WTF????
So as I am digesting this information I am pissing him off b/c I cannot commit to letting him have the monster for any part of the summer. He asked for the whole summer I said hell no! I told him he could have the monster for some of the summer. As it stands now he will be taking the monster the day after school lets out until the 4th of July. I don't know why I picked that day I just did. Then I will have to figure out everything else as it comes. I hate having to think on my feet, I like plans damn it and the ex knows this.
So he is moving to GA to be with his new girlfriend and her 3 kids, boys to boot. He told me he is leaving to get away from all of his crap-well hell you moron its the crap that you got yourself into. I am so annoyed with him, he is running away like a p-word that I don't like to use. I mean come on man you did this to yourself and all your doing is whining about how hard things are for you now well fix them. Yes it's an uphill fight but the sooner you start the sooner its done.
My fears: that my son will have so much fun out there he wont come back and his father is to much of a push over to make him. or that his new girlfriend will like have an even number of kids and want him to stay. I don't know this woman and yet I am supposed to trust her with the most important thing in my life. I hate that the ex has put me in this position. I mean come on now buddy work with me.
How can anyone move that far away from their child? I cannot imagine it's easy when they get older let alone in the younger years. What does he expect to share holidays? You have got to be kidding!!!! I AM NOT sending my child out of state for any holiday except maybe some obscure one that no one knows of. It is hard enough splitting the holidays between his two families and now I have to try and split the boy 3 ways, I think not. His father moves his father loses. That is my thought.
He told my last Sunday, yes Happy Mothers day to me, and I feel like it took me a week to digest the idea. Yes I have dreamed of him leaving, I won't lie, but I thought it would have been when we first split. Not now, now that he is finally starting to work with me and do the every other weekend thing and watch him for me when I have meetings. He was actually trying and now now he decides to leave WTF????
So as I am digesting this information I am pissing him off b/c I cannot commit to letting him have the monster for any part of the summer. He asked for the whole summer I said hell no! I told him he could have the monster for some of the summer. As it stands now he will be taking the monster the day after school lets out until the 4th of July. I don't know why I picked that day I just did. Then I will have to figure out everything else as it comes. I hate having to think on my feet, I like plans damn it and the ex knows this.
So he is moving to GA to be with his new girlfriend and her 3 kids, boys to boot. He told me he is leaving to get away from all of his crap-well hell you moron its the crap that you got yourself into. I am so annoyed with him, he is running away like a p-word that I don't like to use. I mean come on man you did this to yourself and all your doing is whining about how hard things are for you now well fix them. Yes it's an uphill fight but the sooner you start the sooner its done.
My fears: that my son will have so much fun out there he wont come back and his father is to much of a push over to make him. or that his new girlfriend will like have an even number of kids and want him to stay. I don't know this woman and yet I am supposed to trust her with the most important thing in my life. I hate that the ex has put me in this position. I mean come on now buddy work with me.
How can anyone move that far away from their child? I cannot imagine it's easy when they get older let alone in the younger years. What does he expect to share holidays? You have got to be kidding!!!! I AM NOT sending my child out of state for any holiday except maybe some obscure one that no one knows of. It is hard enough splitting the holidays between his two families and now I have to try and split the boy 3 ways, I think not. His father moves his father loses. That is my thought.
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