And it starts...

I know I said I wouldn't let the monster go see his dad again after last year but I really don't have much of a choice. However I did let his father know my stipulations about the vehicle and daycare.
The monster left on Friday, he flew down with his Grandmother. And today the saga begins. All I can do is laugh but at first I was really annoyed.
The monster calls me from his grandmother's phone today and when I asked where his phone was he told me he father took it with him to work! Are you kidding me? I do not pay monthly for his father to use the phone I pay so that I can have as little contact with his father as possible!
So I called the monsters phone and his dad tried to tell me the monster left it in the car, no he didn't! Then when he heard that I didn't believe him he told me the truth that he is using it while he is at work. So I calmly and nicely explained I pay for the phone so I can talk to the monster not my ex husband! I asked if this is going to be a continuing thing while the monster is with him and he said it isn't. I don't believe him at all.
I am so frustrated by this. When my ex left he was making double what I was making but didn't bother to pay me any type of child support or even take the monster very often. I did it all while I was still in college! I have worked my tail off to get to where I am and to make sure I can have the things I want and can afford to treat my son. I have only started getting child support this year, we split up in 2005!!!! It took almost 4 years to get the child support thing worked out and only because I went and filed for it. Now the ex has dropped his health insurrance so my son doesn't have any at present. I am probably going to have to put him on my policy which will eat up most of the money I am getting for child support, wonderful!!!
I did not get myself pregnant, I did not decide on my own to keep the child so where does he get off deciding he is done after 4 years? And where does he get off thinking I will take this lying down! ARG!!!!!
I guess stay tuned for the rest of this story since I am sure it's not completely over....

GROSS JUST PLAIN GROSS!!

Today during my lunch break I had some errands to run. One of which brought me right across the street from my dad's job so I called to see if he wanted lunch, he didn't but said to stop by. He wasn't in his office when I got there so another woman helped me. She asked who I was here for when I said my dads name she asked if I was his wife. OMFG! are you kidding me!
1. I look 12!! I get carded all the time 2. I look just like my dad! come on now. So when I got skeeved out and told her I was his daughter she responded sorry I have only met your brother. again are f--ing kidding me??? One of my brothers is 22 the other is 19 there is no way in hell I look old enough to be a parent to that age child! So grossed out!!!
When my dad comes down the hall the lady tells him she thought I might be his wife and even he said are you kidding me I am not a cradle robber, that's my daughter.
So that was my lovely day, I am still skeeved out and want to go home and to bed and forget this idiotic woman!!!

Really?

So for about 6 months I was casually dating this guy but I just never felt it was more than friendship so I told him that I thought we should be friends and today I see that we cannot even be superficial friends online and this bugs the shit out of me! I think we kissed once and it didn't go any further than a little peck but now we can't be even be facebook friends??? I mean sheesh! I am frustrated and I don't know why this is bugging me aside from the fact that I genuinely liked him as a person just not as a boyfriend.
I guess that is what I get for dating a boy 3 years younger than me. Besides with the way my life plays out he will find someone soon to fall in love with. I seem to be good luck for that sort of thing you date me and it won't work out and then the next person you get with you stay with for a while. It's kind of like that movie Good Luck Chuck with Dane Cook except I don't intend to sleep with a bunch of guys so they can find their spouse.
Well whatever I guess I just need to get over it. You can't be friends with them all, huh?

Myron Rolle!

You may be asking who is this person I titled my blog after, please read the article linked below to find out more!

http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news?slug=jc-rollerhodes052609&prov=yhoo&type=lgns

I am so impressed by this man's drive that I had to share the story. He is 22 years old, a recent college grad, and athlete that could go to the NFL but instead he is going to Oxford studying to by a neurosurgeon!!! But he is going to stay in shape so that he can try to be in the NFL 2010 draft. I just think this is awesome, he has his head on right knows what he wants and is going for it!

In the article it states when he was looking for colleges he didn't just meet with the football staff but all the academic staff so that everyone would know what he wanted and were on the same page! This is the kind of person we need playing sports in the majors!!

I am so happy to read this kind of story vs the ones about contract disputes or criminal activities that normally fill up the sports pages. Go Myron! I really hope all your dreams come true!

Crazy Neighbor attack!

So Saturday I was sitting at home alone, the monster was with his dad's family, and there is an obnoxious knocking on my door, thinking its one of the neighborhood kids wanting the monster I get up to answer it. A child would have been so much better than what I got...the crazy lady comes barging in my house frantically locking the door behind her.
What happened? I asked her. She proceeds to tell me her son is with her family (whom she is not allowed to see b/c of her significant other) and as soon as the kid was gone the significant other (SO) started berating her (my word, def not hers) and he spit on her.
As she sits down on the couch to cry or vent or I don't know interrupt my perfectly peaceful Saturday alone I see her opening a cooler bag of beer. She pops the top and settles into my couch. This woman keeps getting crazier and crazier. As she is sitting on my couch she says she is leaving him and starts making calls. She finds a place to stay for the night but doesn't have a way over there b/c her car doesn't have tags and is no longer at the house. Gee do you see where this is going???? I offer to drive her where ever. Turns out the place isn't too far away so its fine but before I could drop her off she had to stop by the liquor store and by a case of beer. OMG!
So I get her and some things to a friends house and go about my business.
Sunday she texts me about some things she left at my house and we agree she will get them before she takes her son to school on Monday. When I finally get home on Sunday the monster tells me he sees her at the house. She calls me and tells me she is back and giving him one week. One week to what???
I no longer let the monster in that house the boys can either play at my house or outside but he is not going to play in their house with those crazy people! ARG!
I am now of 2 mindsets both of which make her crazy! She is either a drama queen and its not that bad and she just wants attention or it is that bad but she isn't willing to live with her parents and not drink, smoke, and wear little clothes to give her son a better life. I am so annoyed right now and have no desire to deal with her anymore. I know about batter women syndrome and don't discount that but she was out! her son was out and she had plans to get the last of her things why then did she go back? he didn't know where she was and he didn't leave the house Sat night, I know I was home and waiting for it???? Maybe he found her Sunday I don't know but I think she had enough people around her to help her, why would she go back. That is why I think it has to do with being able to drink and smoke living with him and she cannot do this with her parents!
Enough! I am done!

Miss USA

So I watched this pageant Sunday night, not b/c its something I normally do but b/c the kid got into it while at the crazy neighbors house. I watched the last hour so I got to see all those lovely questions the contestants were asked and what not. This is what I observed along with my friend who was over at my house at the time:
Miss California has said she feels she came in second b/c she stated that her opinion is that marriage should be between a man and a woman. Perez Hilton has said he didn't vote for her b/c of this. I applaud her for sticking to her views while I disagree vehemently she has the right to her opinion. However I don't think she didn't win all b/c of this. I didn't like her b/c I (along with my friend) thought she was over confident and cocky!! When she was called as one of the final 5 she did a little arm thing while saying yes and didn't turn to the lady on her side like all the others did for hugs. Then when she joined her fellow finalists she didn't speak to them either. She was just rude looking. When she was standing with Miss North Carolina she wouldn't look at her and wouldn't offer her luck, Miss California just looked like a bitch!!! On top of all that her evening gown wasn't cute at all!!
Other observations: Miss North Carolina was the first one asked questions by the hosts and was given some ridiculous question about the world while all the other girls got personal questions.
Then they were each allowed to pick a number of the judge who was to ask them questions. Miss Arizona didn't even answer her question! she spoke in circles about being proud to be in a country where you could pick your political side??? I believe her question was on universal health care!!! She came in 2nd runner up!!
So what does that say about the competition??? The chick who spoke her mind albeit not a popular thought came in 1st runner up and the chick who didn't answer her question at all came in 2nd runner up. I think Miss California is a lot like the Miss Texas character in Miss Congeniality who thought she was going to win and didn't so got into a cat fight over the crown.
Just had to share b/c I am annoyed with Miss California today.

Crazy neighbor

How is it that I always meet the crazy ones? The monster met a new friend 2 weeks or so ago and it was an interesting meeting with the mom to start with and I thought she was odd. The monster comes running in the house telling me a mom wants to meet me so I go outside to meet her and she immediately hugs me and yells "friends, I have friends". Ok fine she is odd but the child is nice and he and the monster get along well so I let it go.
Well today she calls me to "vent" telling me all crap about her significant other who is mentally abusive but never in front of the child. Right b/c kids can never tell when the shit is hitting the fan. So her significant other tells her how stupid she is and has isolated her from her friends and family and on and on. Holy Cow! She is in therapy which is why I think she is able to talk about what's going on but I don't think she really gets it. She thinks that b/c she has spent a year and a half living with him in his house that she is committed to him and doesn't want to start over. WTF??? get out!!!
Now I am conflicted do I continue to let the monster hang out over there? the child is well behaved so I don't want to punish the kids, they generally enjoy each others company but I don't think I want the monster exposed to the crazy stuff. I am going to have to talk to him to see if he has noticed anything, he would normally tell me about such stuff but now I am thinking he may not tell me if he is worried he might be able to play with the child.
I am worried if I try to help this woman, which is my nature, that I could be in physical danger b/c the guy she lives with may be off his rocker!!! ARG!