Saturday, May 31, 2008

Wrestling

So my child went to GA a few weeks back with his dad to visit the new GF and if that wasn't bad enough my child came back with a new obsession...wrestling. Just blah!!! I am sooo tired of it! He now has to be home on Fridays at 8pm to watch friday night whatever. We weren't home last night and he was so mad b/c he missed so first thing this morning he had to get online and read about what happened. So as I am helping him he was saying "oh man I can't believe I missed it, it was like the best night ever" OMG! are you kidding me. Today we were running errands and we went to Target where he bought himself an Undertaker t-shirt. I am just not in the mood for this obsession, I would much rather go back to spiderman. I hope this doesn't last long...

Bank encounter

So I just went to this credit union today to deposit my rent check and OMG!!! It was ridiculous!! I went inside b/c I didn't have a deposit slip and I walk in to the strangest thing I have ever seen. Instead of having a teller line like a normal bank they decided to have these phone booth looking things. I went to inquire about this and was told that the tellers are in a remote area and that you send the check like you would in a drive thru. What is that about? It was the strangest thing I have ever seen. Just thought I would share b/c it was to unreal to believe.

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Stupid car

ARG!!!
When my ex and I split our agreement said that he would take care of his car and I would take care of mine. Pretty standard. But (because there is always a but) his car loan is in my name and his, mine first (my car is in mine and my dad's so no prob there). We did not title his car in both names so basically we are co-debters but not co-owners, I have no claim to the car.
It all started out well, he paid for his car but that didn't last long. He was a year into the loan when we split, I have been getting calls from the loan people for 2 years b/c of late payments or non-payments. The worst part about all of this is his payment was $225.47 a month. How cheap is that?????????
The car was a lease thing and when we bought it we planned to buy it out right at the end of the lease. He still wanted to do that but when you don't pay they will not give you another loan. The car was supposed to be turned in 4/15 and he did NOTHING for it. Again I started getting calls.
Well it turns out the car wasn't moving b/c someone had tried to break into it and had messed with the ignition. He let it sit for months, didn't call insurrance or anything.
I went to the dealership to ask for help, the know the situation. My mistake was not following up on it b/c the captain did NOTHING to try and keep the car. I finally got him to tow the thing into the shop so they can fix it and he told me he called his insurrance turns out that is all a lie!!! I don't even think he has insurrance. So who is going to pay for this??? Where am I going to get the money to pay for this? I don't want to ask my parents for money I am an adult. I paid off a credit card this year, I was so happy to have that done but it looks like I am going back in debt to pay for his pure laziness and stupidity. I am sooo mad right now that I fully intend to get all of this in writing and take his happy ass to court for #1 contempt and #2 to get my money back. This is not fair, I know life isn't fair but I didn nothing to him. I took my debt when I left, I helped him out even. How could he be so irrisponsible????
I cannot wait for him to go to Georgia b/c I cannot stand looking at him, the thought that I am going to have to talk to him today is horrifing. My son is going to be around so I am going to have to be nice. I do not want to be one of those parents who bashes the other one but I am sooo almost there. I am soo upset right now!!!!
I am happy that this is the last tie I have to this man finacially but so pissed that he cannot take care of his business and leaves it up to others to take care of. Then gets mad if you "judge" him. Well what do you expect? Do you think that there is a magic fairy out there that is going to come over and take care of you? No you mo-ron that is not the case, you need to step up and grow some balls!!!

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Moving...

No not me my ex aka my baby daddy.
He told my last Sunday, yes Happy Mothers day to me, and I feel like it took me a week to digest the idea. Yes I have dreamed of him leaving, I won't lie, but I thought it would have been when we first split. Not now, now that he is finally starting to work with me and do the every other weekend thing and watch him for me when I have meetings. He was actually trying and now now he decides to leave WTF????
So as I am digesting this information I am pissing him off b/c I cannot commit to letting him have the monster for any part of the summer. He asked for the whole summer I said hell no! I told him he could have the monster for some of the summer. As it stands now he will be taking the monster the day after school lets out until the 4th of July. I don't know why I picked that day I just did. Then I will have to figure out everything else as it comes. I hate having to think on my feet, I like plans damn it and the ex knows this.
So he is moving to GA to be with his new girlfriend and her 3 kids, boys to boot. He told me he is leaving to get away from all of his crap-well hell you moron its the crap that you got yourself into. I am so annoyed with him, he is running away like a p-word that I don't like to use. I mean come on man you did this to yourself and all your doing is whining about how hard things are for you now well fix them. Yes it's an uphill fight but the sooner you start the sooner its done.
My fears: that my son will have so much fun out there he wont come back and his father is to much of a push over to make him. or that his new girlfriend will like have an even number of kids and want him to stay. I don't know this woman and yet I am supposed to trust her with the most important thing in my life. I hate that the ex has put me in this position. I mean come on now buddy work with me.
How can anyone move that far away from their child? I cannot imagine it's easy when they get older let alone in the younger years. What does he expect to share holidays? You have got to be kidding!!!! I AM NOT sending my child out of state for any holiday except maybe some obscure one that no one knows of. It is hard enough splitting the holidays between his two families and now I have to try and split the boy 3 ways, I think not. His father moves his father loses. That is my thought.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Mothers Day

First and foremost Happy Mother's day to all the mothers out there. Whether your children are young or old whether your children are with you or not happy mothers day.
This year is significant for a 2 reasons, 1-its the first for my family without my grandmother. I don't think today was as hard as I imagined it would be. I think I was so planned with things to do I didn't allow myself time to really think and dwell on it. Christmas was harder b/c she had just past and things were so different. I did spend time with some of my family which was nice and similar to what we have done in years past.
2-my dear friend lost her son this past January he was only 5. I sent her a card to let her know I was thinking about her and know this is going to be tough. I know she got it b/c she emailed me about it. I know I could have called or emailed or texted or even myspaced her but I wanted to do something different and I know she likes cards so that is what I did. She is a strong woman so I know she will get through it I also know things are tough right now so if I can give her a little extra support I will.

So my day was busy with food, I had 3 meals to attend, I am soo stuffed. It ended on a rather funny note. I have made a habit of telling my son that when he is a mom he will get to make the rules. Its my funny way of saying b/c I said so without really saying that b/c I would never say such a thing (or so I told my self when I thought about raising a child). So tonight he says "I am never going to be a mommy so stop saying that" my roommate chuckled as she walked in the garage and I promptly told him to go to bed. Well yes he knows he will never be a mommy but I will probably use this line many more times to come especially in these dreaded teen years .

Happy Mothers day to all-hope you got enough rest so that tomorrows start of the work week doesn't suck and that if you had to be with dreaded family members i.e. in-laws or even ex-in-laws it wasn't that bad.

Thursday, May 8, 2008

What's next?

I have been thinking a lot about where my life is going and what I want to do with it. I have a job but not a career so I want to find a career. But I am so scatter brained that I cannot figure out what I want to do with my life. Part of me thinks that I am too young to figure it out but in reality even though people are living longer they aren't able to work longer b/c "the man" "the corporate boss" whatever you want to call him don't really like older workers. So if I am going to find a career path I need to do it now. Although I look 12 at present and am 25 so if I stay on this path I am a lucky one who can work well into my older years with people thinking me young, lol. People keep telling me that I will like looking this young some day, I think I have just found the benefit, I will be able to work longer. woo-hoo.
So back to what I am thinking about doing with my life...sometimes I think about being a counselor for families or maybe teen mom's, or I have thought as of lately of working for the church maybe finding a church that needs a program director or finding a non-profit to work for or or or or... I just don't know. arg!!! Someday I will figure out what I am going to do with my life until then back to looking at the drawing board...