Today I get a call from the ex, he is about to be evicted with his wife and her three kids and no one will help them, will I?
I know the answer should be a resonding hell no butthead but then I think of the kids and they are innocent in all of this and they don't deserve to be put out on the street. I hate that he did this to me! I feel like I have to try to help him but how, I don't have the money and if I give it to him I am taking away money I would like for my car which helps me drive my son around, for Christmas for my son, for food for my son, ect. I am so annoyed right now b/c I know I need to tell him no but I feel like absolute crap.
He says he has called his family and they have all either not answered or turned him down??? I am tempted to call them myself and ask them b/c if he is lying that will make my no a lot easier to say...
ARG!!! I hate divorce, its never flipping ending, this is ridiculous!
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Kick me, please I beg you....
When it rains it pours!
Things with my family aren't going well. Work has been stressful. The child has had an attitude, it feels like its coming from all sides right now and I am angry. All I want is a vacation where when I come back things will be fine. I know wishful thinking, I cannot run away from this.
But I am tired of taking it. Yesterday I was complimented on my shirt. I said I like it but the sleeves are tight, they were tight when I bought it I was going to return it but I needed it for an interview. Well the woman I said that to says " its not the sleeves that are tight" so was she implying that its my arms that are fat? Gee thanks...
Today is my son's birthday. I brought in cupcakes to share. I offered it to a co-worker (not the same one from yesterdays comment) and she asks how old my son is. I told her nine and she says wow you started early, how old were you? So I tell her I was 17 to which she responds wow. So I say yes I was young but I went to college, got my degree, and am doing pretty well for myself. Where do people get off judging???? It is not my fault she waited until her 30's to have her children. She can kiss my large white ass!!!
I am done. I just want to be left the hell alone to do my job and go home.
Monday, September 7, 2009
Family frustration
Recently I have been noticing the fact that my mom has the tendency to jump down my throat about things but not my brother for the same behavior. Its been driving me nuts. Also I have become the butt of all jokes and they get said over and over in front of anyone who is around. I am just tired of it. I actually walked out on Fathers day dinner b/c I was so annoyed with the family.
So the recent blow up happened after the monsters birthday party ended. The family and my closest friends were hanging out when my brother gets annoyed with my fathers comment and flicks him off then I chime in so he flicks me off. I point out to my mom the evidently I need to grow some balls and grow tall and skinny and I won't get bitched out for flicking people off. My brother responds in what world would you be skinny. Oh shithead fine, I let it go.
So fast forward a little bit and my brother brings out a corona for himself and our dad but he doesn't bring the bottle opener b/c he thinks the tops are twist off. Most people know that isn't true so we pick on him for this and he gets all pissy and my dad tells me to back off my brother. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!!!!!
At the end of July I threw a welcome home BBQ for the monster at my house, I bought charcoal and asked the guy for matchlight but the stuff he pointed out needed lighter fluid. My dad was all over me for that in front of everyone and even brought it back up at the monsters birthday party. But I cannot say anything to my brother about not bringing out a bottle opener.
I so frustrated with the obvious babying of my brother I decide its time for me to get my stuff and get out of there so I start cleaning up but my mom says I can wait and get stuff the following day when I say no I want it all tonight she gets mad at me for being mad.
I point out that my brother does the same thing I do but nothing gets said to him. She launches into this whole thing about she doesn't know why I can't see that she loves us both and that she treats us the same. I pointed out that no she does not and she still can't see it. She has told me before that I am critical of her so I point out that she is of me as well and site examples which she doesn't remember and then says that she bites her tongue a lot. So that is supposed to make it better???? again are you kidding me????? I feel like no matter how much I do she is never happy with things for example yes I got pregnant at 17 but I have worked my ass off to take care of myself and get no credit for it. She said that she cannot tell me she is proud of me or that I did a good job b/c it will make my brothers feel bad. Why can she not tell me I did a good job at something and that each one of the boys did something good too? I guess none of us do anything to make her proud...
So I let things go with my mom get my stuff together and leave. I call my dad and tell him I don't appreciate being chastised in front of everyone when my brother is allowed to hit below the belt and gets away with it, he claims he pulled him aside to say something but I didn't see it and neither did my friend who was there but whatever. He then goes on to say he is sorry that I don't like the way he runs things at his house. So basically he is saying tough shit!
The next day at church my mom won't sit with us. The thing about that is that one Sunday I sat behind her and she had a fit b/c she didn't want people to think something was wrong, we have to sit together as a family she said at the time but now she sat with my other brother (not the one who made the asshole comment). I highly doubt she didn't see me b/c 1. she called to see if I was on my way so she knew I would be there 2. my car was parked right in front of the door she walked in and 3. I was sitting on the isle in a bright orange shirt, hard to miss!!! So after the service I have to talk to her b/c I need to get something my brother borrowed from me and she is like so you are still mad. How in the hell am I supposed to feel?????
Ok fine. As it is painfully obvious that I am not only the ugly step child in my moms eyes but now my dads too I will deal with it. I was having a conversation with the monster about his dad and trying to explain to him that unfortunatly he cannot change his dads behavior but he can change how he reacts to his father. Funny how this advice is just what I need to do myself when it comes to my family.
I will get over things with my family and I will try to figure out a way for the monster to see his grandparents without me having to be there so that I don't have to put myself into the uncomfortable position often. My mom will just have to get over it, I am done! I will try to change how I react to her obvious babying of my brothers.
Only time will tell if I am strong enough to walk away from this but I am going to try my damdest.
So the recent blow up happened after the monsters birthday party ended. The family and my closest friends were hanging out when my brother gets annoyed with my fathers comment and flicks him off then I chime in so he flicks me off. I point out to my mom the evidently I need to grow some balls and grow tall and skinny and I won't get bitched out for flicking people off. My brother responds in what world would you be skinny. Oh shithead fine, I let it go.
So fast forward a little bit and my brother brings out a corona for himself and our dad but he doesn't bring the bottle opener b/c he thinks the tops are twist off. Most people know that isn't true so we pick on him for this and he gets all pissy and my dad tells me to back off my brother. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!!!!!
At the end of July I threw a welcome home BBQ for the monster at my house, I bought charcoal and asked the guy for matchlight but the stuff he pointed out needed lighter fluid. My dad was all over me for that in front of everyone and even brought it back up at the monsters birthday party. But I cannot say anything to my brother about not bringing out a bottle opener.
I so frustrated with the obvious babying of my brother I decide its time for me to get my stuff and get out of there so I start cleaning up but my mom says I can wait and get stuff the following day when I say no I want it all tonight she gets mad at me for being mad.
I point out that my brother does the same thing I do but nothing gets said to him. She launches into this whole thing about she doesn't know why I can't see that she loves us both and that she treats us the same. I pointed out that no she does not and she still can't see it. She has told me before that I am critical of her so I point out that she is of me as well and site examples which she doesn't remember and then says that she bites her tongue a lot. So that is supposed to make it better???? again are you kidding me????? I feel like no matter how much I do she is never happy with things for example yes I got pregnant at 17 but I have worked my ass off to take care of myself and get no credit for it. She said that she cannot tell me she is proud of me or that I did a good job b/c it will make my brothers feel bad. Why can she not tell me I did a good job at something and that each one of the boys did something good too? I guess none of us do anything to make her proud...
So I let things go with my mom get my stuff together and leave. I call my dad and tell him I don't appreciate being chastised in front of everyone when my brother is allowed to hit below the belt and gets away with it, he claims he pulled him aside to say something but I didn't see it and neither did my friend who was there but whatever. He then goes on to say he is sorry that I don't like the way he runs things at his house. So basically he is saying tough shit!
The next day at church my mom won't sit with us. The thing about that is that one Sunday I sat behind her and she had a fit b/c she didn't want people to think something was wrong, we have to sit together as a family she said at the time but now she sat with my other brother (not the one who made the asshole comment). I highly doubt she didn't see me b/c 1. she called to see if I was on my way so she knew I would be there 2. my car was parked right in front of the door she walked in and 3. I was sitting on the isle in a bright orange shirt, hard to miss!!! So after the service I have to talk to her b/c I need to get something my brother borrowed from me and she is like so you are still mad. How in the hell am I supposed to feel?????
Ok fine. As it is painfully obvious that I am not only the ugly step child in my moms eyes but now my dads too I will deal with it. I was having a conversation with the monster about his dad and trying to explain to him that unfortunatly he cannot change his dads behavior but he can change how he reacts to his father. Funny how this advice is just what I need to do myself when it comes to my family.
I will get over things with my family and I will try to figure out a way for the monster to see his grandparents without me having to be there so that I don't have to put myself into the uncomfortable position often. My mom will just have to get over it, I am done! I will try to change how I react to her obvious babying of my brothers.
Only time will tell if I am strong enough to walk away from this but I am going to try my damdest.
Monday, August 31, 2009
As the drama turns....
So captain called today and guess what that craptacular father cannot come up for his son's birthday. He gave me some sob story about how if he takes the time for his son's birthday he will not have a job to come back to. Ok that may be true so why does he continue to work there? I mean if they are not understanding about his son and needing some time off then maybe the paternal figure should find another job????
It pisses me off so much!! He has not made one desicion where he thought about his son since we split up, he only thinks about himself and that erks the crap out of me!! A woman who has known me for a while and knew the ex when we were married called last night and was telling me how much she thinks he has changed and she too pointed out that he doesn't make any desicions with his son in mind. I am glad I am not the only one who sees it.
I would really like go to GA and hit him in the head so that maybe it will knock some sense into him. I know that it won't do any good so there is no point wasting my time I realize this but I still want to go beat his ass!!!
It pisses me off so much!! He has not made one desicion where he thought about his son since we split up, he only thinks about himself and that erks the crap out of me!! A woman who has known me for a while and knew the ex when we were married called last night and was telling me how much she thinks he has changed and she too pointed out that he doesn't make any desicions with his son in mind. I am glad I am not the only one who sees it.
I would really like go to GA and hit him in the head so that maybe it will knock some sense into him. I know that it won't do any good so there is no point wasting my time I realize this but I still want to go beat his ass!!!
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Birthday Drama
The monster's turning 9 in a few weeks and I am getting things together for it. I don't go into big plans anymore b/c between both families and the friends that we invite we are up to almost 100 people!! I cannot do a big themes for this many people so instead I rented a moon bounce and will host a BBQ at my parents house. It will be fun, I hope, it was last year.
So tonight after I tell the monster to go to bed he decides we need to talk b/c he no longer wants his dad to come to his party. What am I supposed to do with that? He is really upset with his father and complains to me but will not try talking to his father. I am not going to tell his father not to come. I think the monster would be very upset if his dad didn't come even if the father doesn't come b/c the monster told him not to. I have no idea how to make this right?
I think part of this was b/c the monster was tired and getting ready to go to bed but this has become a common theme with our conversations about his father. I have to say that I normally do not bring up his father b/c I don't want to deal with it, to be honest. I know he is upset and I keep telling him to talk to his father and I keep telling his father what he says but it gets no where. I feel like I am in the middle of this and cannot get out. Neither of them is willing to communicate with the other. The most annoying thing about this is that his father is an adult and needs to try something!!! I am tired of this shit but I get it, his father is remarried with another family and doesn't care about his son anymore, it makes me mad and admittedly bitter! It will be interesting to see how this plays out.
So tonight after I tell the monster to go to bed he decides we need to talk b/c he no longer wants his dad to come to his party. What am I supposed to do with that? He is really upset with his father and complains to me but will not try talking to his father. I am not going to tell his father not to come. I think the monster would be very upset if his dad didn't come even if the father doesn't come b/c the monster told him not to. I have no idea how to make this right?
I think part of this was b/c the monster was tired and getting ready to go to bed but this has become a common theme with our conversations about his father. I have to say that I normally do not bring up his father b/c I don't want to deal with it, to be honest. I know he is upset and I keep telling him to talk to his father and I keep telling his father what he says but it gets no where. I feel like I am in the middle of this and cannot get out. Neither of them is willing to communicate with the other. The most annoying thing about this is that his father is an adult and needs to try something!!! I am tired of this shit but I get it, his father is remarried with another family and doesn't care about his son anymore, it makes me mad and admittedly bitter! It will be interesting to see how this plays out.
Saturday, July 25, 2009
He's Married...WTF????
ARG! my ex husband is re-married!!!
I do not know why this bothers me but it sure as shit does! He finally shows up with the monster at 4pm today after all the drama of not being able to leave on time then the fight we had yesterday where he called me an irresponsible parent b/c he claims I sent the kid with wholly cloths and cloths that didn't fit. Although he has let the health insurance lapse again but he is not irresponsible???? ARG!!!
So back to the marriage thing...why does he get another happy ending?
What the hell did I do wrong so that I cannot find even someone to date? I am online and nothing, I am active in my church and nothing, I go out with the girls and nothing. What should I be doing? I am just annoyed right now. Why why why?????
I do not know why this bothers me but it sure as shit does! He finally shows up with the monster at 4pm today after all the drama of not being able to leave on time then the fight we had yesterday where he called me an irresponsible parent b/c he claims I sent the kid with wholly cloths and cloths that didn't fit. Although he has let the health insurance lapse again but he is not irresponsible???? ARG!!!
So back to the marriage thing...why does he get another happy ending?
What the hell did I do wrong so that I cannot find even someone to date? I am online and nothing, I am active in my church and nothing, I go out with the girls and nothing. What should I be doing? I am just annoyed right now. Why why why?????
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Oh the drama!!
The ex has struck again. For the purpose of this blog he will be referred to as captain Jack short for captain Jackass!
How it all started this week:
Wednsday I get a call from the monster and it goes something like this:
"Hi Mama, I will be leaving GA at 5 on Friday, I will see you some time Sunday"
Me: 5pm?
Him: "yes"
Me: "so you won't be here on Friday like you were supposed to"
him: no
Me: "can I talk to your father?
him: "he's at work"
Me: "is his girlfriend around?"
him: "she's sleeping"
Me: "wonderful"
Call ends after a little bit more useless conversation.
I am fuming at this point so I call captain jack at work to find out what is going on. He tells me that I don't need the monster back until Monday so what is the big deal. The big deal??? Is that you didn't have the courtsey to tell me things had changed. He tells me that he got stuck working b/c someone quit, ok that is fine I understand that and had he told me I would have been annoyed but now I am pissed.
Mind you I have been fuming since finding this out. I want to talk to captain again but he is always working so I can't. Since I am mad I decide I need to talk to him about health insurrance since he is supposed to cover the monster.
Today I call and talk to the monster and ask if his father is around and of course captain is no where to be found so I talk to the girlfriend. I explain that the reason I am pissed is b/c I had to ask when the monster would be coming home and he didn't tell me things changed. I understand stuff happens. Well she lets slip out that the reason they aren't leaving until late is b/c...SHE has to work until 3pm and then HER kids aren't getting picked up until around 5pm. She told me she told captain to just bring the monster home without but he said no. I believe this b/c he cannot stand to be away from his significant other. Maybe he is afraid she will wise up and see that he is a no good little man that cannot make it on his own and is full of bullshit and whines too much and doesn't take responsibility for his own actions.
Sorry for the tangent...
Back to the conversation with the girlfriend. I tell her that I still need to talk to captain about health insurrance b/c he was supposed to have it for the monster 2 months ago and she simply states he didn't get it. So I tell her, its in the agreement that he will take care of that and he needs to have the common curtsey to tell me these things and not make me ask.
So now I am livid!!!!! LIVID!!!! I will be putting together all the information I have and taking him to court for repayment of past crap I have paid for the 60% of out of pocket medical expenses from when he lost his job before. Also I want full custody, this isn't working anymore and he isn't making any effort.
Last year I said I wouldn't send the monster to GA again and now I am sure of it. I plan to sign the monster up for baseball which means he won't be available until around the fourth then I want him to go to church camp which will put him not being available until the 3rd or 4th week in July and I will find something else for him to do as well so that it if he goes down he only gets 2-3 weeks. Then if the monster fights me, I am siding with him! I am done being nice!
Now this is posted as a reminder to myself when I start being nice, please remind me about this so I go through with it.
How it all started this week:
Wednsday I get a call from the monster and it goes something like this:
"Hi Mama, I will be leaving GA at 5 on Friday, I will see you some time Sunday"
Me: 5pm?
Him: "yes"
Me: "so you won't be here on Friday like you were supposed to"
him: no
Me: "can I talk to your father?
him: "he's at work"
Me: "is his girlfriend around?"
him: "she's sleeping"
Me: "wonderful"
Call ends after a little bit more useless conversation.
I am fuming at this point so I call captain jack at work to find out what is going on. He tells me that I don't need the monster back until Monday so what is the big deal. The big deal??? Is that you didn't have the courtsey to tell me things had changed. He tells me that he got stuck working b/c someone quit, ok that is fine I understand that and had he told me I would have been annoyed but now I am pissed.
Mind you I have been fuming since finding this out. I want to talk to captain again but he is always working so I can't. Since I am mad I decide I need to talk to him about health insurrance since he is supposed to cover the monster.
Today I call and talk to the monster and ask if his father is around and of course captain is no where to be found so I talk to the girlfriend. I explain that the reason I am pissed is b/c I had to ask when the monster would be coming home and he didn't tell me things changed. I understand stuff happens. Well she lets slip out that the reason they aren't leaving until late is b/c...SHE has to work until 3pm and then HER kids aren't getting picked up until around 5pm. She told me she told captain to just bring the monster home without but he said no. I believe this b/c he cannot stand to be away from his significant other. Maybe he is afraid she will wise up and see that he is a no good little man that cannot make it on his own and is full of bullshit and whines too much and doesn't take responsibility for his own actions.
Sorry for the tangent...
Back to the conversation with the girlfriend. I tell her that I still need to talk to captain about health insurrance b/c he was supposed to have it for the monster 2 months ago and she simply states he didn't get it. So I tell her, its in the agreement that he will take care of that and he needs to have the common curtsey to tell me these things and not make me ask.
So now I am livid!!!!! LIVID!!!! I will be putting together all the information I have and taking him to court for repayment of past crap I have paid for the 60% of out of pocket medical expenses from when he lost his job before. Also I want full custody, this isn't working anymore and he isn't making any effort.
Last year I said I wouldn't send the monster to GA again and now I am sure of it. I plan to sign the monster up for baseball which means he won't be available until around the fourth then I want him to go to church camp which will put him not being available until the 3rd or 4th week in July and I will find something else for him to do as well so that it if he goes down he only gets 2-3 weeks. Then if the monster fights me, I am siding with him! I am done being nice!
Now this is posted as a reminder to myself when I start being nice, please remind me about this so I go through with it.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Interesting story
http://www.wbaltv.com/news/20124542/detail.html
This is a story I saw on the news tonight and had to look it up. Three Baltimore boys ages 7,8, and 11 were arrested for stealing from their neighbor. They were handcuffed, taken in a paddy wagon to the juvenile detention center and held for about 2 hours.
Part of me thinks this is a pretty good idea b/c they will hopefully learn early that their are consequences for their actions. But another part of me thinks they are too young to be arrested. However the question arises if they had not been caught by police would they have continued down this path? One of the children is quotes as saying he and his friends saw his neighbors bikes, scooter, and go-kart and decided to take them. Why did they think it was a good idea to take something that wasn't theirs? It boggles my mind. I saw a clip of one of the moms talking and she didn't seem to get that her son did wrong and should be punished.
I am trying to think about what I would do if the monster was to get into trouble for stealing and I know I would be embarrassed but I think I would support the cops b/c they were following the rules and my child was not. I am still at odds with how I feel but it is interesting...
This is a story I saw on the news tonight and had to look it up. Three Baltimore boys ages 7,8, and 11 were arrested for stealing from their neighbor. They were handcuffed, taken in a paddy wagon to the juvenile detention center and held for about 2 hours.
Part of me thinks this is a pretty good idea b/c they will hopefully learn early that their are consequences for their actions. But another part of me thinks they are too young to be arrested. However the question arises if they had not been caught by police would they have continued down this path? One of the children is quotes as saying he and his friends saw his neighbors bikes, scooter, and go-kart and decided to take them. Why did they think it was a good idea to take something that wasn't theirs? It boggles my mind. I saw a clip of one of the moms talking and she didn't seem to get that her son did wrong and should be punished.
I am trying to think about what I would do if the monster was to get into trouble for stealing and I know I would be embarrassed but I think I would support the cops b/c they were following the rules and my child was not. I am still at odds with how I feel but it is interesting...
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Accountablility
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31920273/
If you read this article pay attention to the last paragraph. It made me laugh that neither the bank nor credit card company will answer how this happened and each points the finger at the other, makes me think this is the reason why there is a partnership between banks and credit card companies so that neither is help accountable for issues.
In this case I think it was an input error at the store but funny how neither one would say anything...
If you read this article pay attention to the last paragraph. It made me laugh that neither the bank nor credit card company will answer how this happened and each points the finger at the other, makes me think this is the reason why there is a partnership between banks and credit card companies so that neither is help accountable for issues.
In this case I think it was an input error at the store but funny how neither one would say anything...
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Life
As I sit here tonight watching the boob tube and playing around online I miss the monster soo much! I know I only have 23 days until he comes home but feels like to long. I actually mapquested from my town to where he is at, its only 12 hours away. I could leave tomorrow night after work, stop off at my friends, 6 hours away and then continue to him on Friday afternoon. Spend Sat with him and head back Sat night. It would be a whirl win trip and I would not be able to celebrate the 4th at all but I would be able to see him.
I know this is a crazy idea and I would need at least another day to not feel so rushed. I don't want to spend an evening at my ex's house so I would need to find a place to stay. Logistically this is a horrible idea but right now at home with my cats watching me it feels like a pretty good one.
I have spent the past 3 weeks busy as hell and rarely home and now I see why...this sucks!!!
I also just accepted a new position with a friends company so I will not have the luxury of the time to go get him if that is needed. I am nervous about this new job, I know its fear of the unknown that is bugging me but its still bugging me.
Yep being home and not busy SUCKS!!!!
I know this is a crazy idea and I would need at least another day to not feel so rushed. I don't want to spend an evening at my ex's house so I would need to find a place to stay. Logistically this is a horrible idea but right now at home with my cats watching me it feels like a pretty good one.
I have spent the past 3 weeks busy as hell and rarely home and now I see why...this sucks!!!
I also just accepted a new position with a friends company so I will not have the luxury of the time to go get him if that is needed. I am nervous about this new job, I know its fear of the unknown that is bugging me but its still bugging me.
Yep being home and not busy SUCKS!!!!
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
And it starts...
I know I said I wouldn't let the monster go see his dad again after last year but I really don't have much of a choice. However I did let his father know my stipulations about the vehicle and daycare.
The monster left on Friday, he flew down with his Grandmother. And today the saga begins. All I can do is laugh but at first I was really annoyed.
The monster calls me from his grandmother's phone today and when I asked where his phone was he told me he father took it with him to work! Are you kidding me? I do not pay monthly for his father to use the phone I pay so that I can have as little contact with his father as possible!
So I called the monsters phone and his dad tried to tell me the monster left it in the car, no he didn't! Then when he heard that I didn't believe him he told me the truth that he is using it while he is at work. So I calmly and nicely explained I pay for the phone so I can talk to the monster not my ex husband! I asked if this is going to be a continuing thing while the monster is with him and he said it isn't. I don't believe him at all.
I am so frustrated by this. When my ex left he was making double what I was making but didn't bother to pay me any type of child support or even take the monster very often. I did it all while I was still in college! I have worked my tail off to get to where I am and to make sure I can have the things I want and can afford to treat my son. I have only started getting child support this year, we split up in 2005!!!! It took almost 4 years to get the child support thing worked out and only because I went and filed for it. Now the ex has dropped his health insurrance so my son doesn't have any at present. I am probably going to have to put him on my policy which will eat up most of the money I am getting for child support, wonderful!!!
I did not get myself pregnant, I did not decide on my own to keep the child so where does he get off deciding he is done after 4 years? And where does he get off thinking I will take this lying down! ARG!!!!!
I guess stay tuned for the rest of this story since I am sure it's not completely over....
The monster left on Friday, he flew down with his Grandmother. And today the saga begins. All I can do is laugh but at first I was really annoyed.
The monster calls me from his grandmother's phone today and when I asked where his phone was he told me he father took it with him to work! Are you kidding me? I do not pay monthly for his father to use the phone I pay so that I can have as little contact with his father as possible!
So I called the monsters phone and his dad tried to tell me the monster left it in the car, no he didn't! Then when he heard that I didn't believe him he told me the truth that he is using it while he is at work. So I calmly and nicely explained I pay for the phone so I can talk to the monster not my ex husband! I asked if this is going to be a continuing thing while the monster is with him and he said it isn't. I don't believe him at all.
I am so frustrated by this. When my ex left he was making double what I was making but didn't bother to pay me any type of child support or even take the monster very often. I did it all while I was still in college! I have worked my tail off to get to where I am and to make sure I can have the things I want and can afford to treat my son. I have only started getting child support this year, we split up in 2005!!!! It took almost 4 years to get the child support thing worked out and only because I went and filed for it. Now the ex has dropped his health insurrance so my son doesn't have any at present. I am probably going to have to put him on my policy which will eat up most of the money I am getting for child support, wonderful!!!
I did not get myself pregnant, I did not decide on my own to keep the child so where does he get off deciding he is done after 4 years? And where does he get off thinking I will take this lying down! ARG!!!!!
I guess stay tuned for the rest of this story since I am sure it's not completely over....
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
GROSS JUST PLAIN GROSS!!
Today during my lunch break I had some errands to run. One of which brought me right across the street from my dad's job so I called to see if he wanted lunch, he didn't but said to stop by. He wasn't in his office when I got there so another woman helped me. She asked who I was here for when I said my dads name she asked if I was his wife. OMFG! are you kidding me!
1. I look 12!! I get carded all the time 2. I look just like my dad! come on now. So when I got skeeved out and told her I was his daughter she responded sorry I have only met your brother. again are f--ing kidding me??? One of my brothers is 22 the other is 19 there is no way in hell I look old enough to be a parent to that age child! So grossed out!!!
When my dad comes down the hall the lady tells him she thought I might be his wife and even he said are you kidding me I am not a cradle robber, that's my daughter.
So that was my lovely day, I am still skeeved out and want to go home and to bed and forget this idiotic woman!!!
1. I look 12!! I get carded all the time 2. I look just like my dad! come on now. So when I got skeeved out and told her I was his daughter she responded sorry I have only met your brother. again are f--ing kidding me??? One of my brothers is 22 the other is 19 there is no way in hell I look old enough to be a parent to that age child! So grossed out!!!
When my dad comes down the hall the lady tells him she thought I might be his wife and even he said are you kidding me I am not a cradle robber, that's my daughter.
So that was my lovely day, I am still skeeved out and want to go home and to bed and forget this idiotic woman!!!
Friday, May 29, 2009
Really?
So for about 6 months I was casually dating this guy but I just never felt it was more than friendship so I told him that I thought we should be friends and today I see that we cannot even be superficial friends online and this bugs the shit out of me! I think we kissed once and it didn't go any further than a little peck but now we can't be even be facebook friends??? I mean sheesh! I am frustrated and I don't know why this is bugging me aside from the fact that I genuinely liked him as a person just not as a boyfriend.
I guess that is what I get for dating a boy 3 years younger than me. Besides with the way my life plays out he will find someone soon to fall in love with. I seem to be good luck for that sort of thing you date me and it won't work out and then the next person you get with you stay with for a while. It's kind of like that movie Good Luck Chuck with Dane Cook except I don't intend to sleep with a bunch of guys so they can find their spouse.
Well whatever I guess I just need to get over it. You can't be friends with them all, huh?
I guess that is what I get for dating a boy 3 years younger than me. Besides with the way my life plays out he will find someone soon to fall in love with. I seem to be good luck for that sort of thing you date me and it won't work out and then the next person you get with you stay with for a while. It's kind of like that movie Good Luck Chuck with Dane Cook except I don't intend to sleep with a bunch of guys so they can find their spouse.
Well whatever I guess I just need to get over it. You can't be friends with them all, huh?
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Myron Rolle!
You may be asking who is this person I titled my blog after, please read the article linked below to find out more!
http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news?slug=jc-rollerhodes052609&prov=yhoo&type=lgns
I am so impressed by this man's drive that I had to share the story. He is 22 years old, a recent college grad, and athlete that could go to the NFL but instead he is going to Oxford studying to by a neurosurgeon!!! But he is going to stay in shape so that he can try to be in the NFL 2010 draft. I just think this is awesome, he has his head on right knows what he wants and is going for it!
In the article it states when he was looking for colleges he didn't just meet with the football staff but all the academic staff so that everyone would know what he wanted and were on the same page! This is the kind of person we need playing sports in the majors!!
I am so happy to read this kind of story vs the ones about contract disputes or criminal activities that normally fill up the sports pages. Go Myron! I really hope all your dreams come true!
http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news?slug=jc-rollerhodes052609&prov=yhoo&type=lgns
I am so impressed by this man's drive that I had to share the story. He is 22 years old, a recent college grad, and athlete that could go to the NFL but instead he is going to Oxford studying to by a neurosurgeon!!! But he is going to stay in shape so that he can try to be in the NFL 2010 draft. I just think this is awesome, he has his head on right knows what he wants and is going for it!
In the article it states when he was looking for colleges he didn't just meet with the football staff but all the academic staff so that everyone would know what he wanted and were on the same page! This is the kind of person we need playing sports in the majors!!
I am so happy to read this kind of story vs the ones about contract disputes or criminal activities that normally fill up the sports pages. Go Myron! I really hope all your dreams come true!
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Crazy Neighbor attack!
So Saturday I was sitting at home alone, the monster was with his dad's family, and there is an obnoxious knocking on my door, thinking its one of the neighborhood kids wanting the monster I get up to answer it. A child would have been so much better than what I got...the crazy lady comes barging in my house frantically locking the door behind her.
What happened? I asked her. She proceeds to tell me her son is with her family (whom she is not allowed to see b/c of her significant other) and as soon as the kid was gone the significant other (SO) started berating her (my word, def not hers) and he spit on her.
As she sits down on the couch to cry or vent or I don't know interrupt my perfectly peaceful Saturday alone I see her opening a cooler bag of beer. She pops the top and settles into my couch. This woman keeps getting crazier and crazier. As she is sitting on my couch she says she is leaving him and starts making calls. She finds a place to stay for the night but doesn't have a way over there b/c her car doesn't have tags and is no longer at the house. Gee do you see where this is going???? I offer to drive her where ever. Turns out the place isn't too far away so its fine but before I could drop her off she had to stop by the liquor store and by a case of beer. OMG!
So I get her and some things to a friends house and go about my business.
Sunday she texts me about some things she left at my house and we agree she will get them before she takes her son to school on Monday. When I finally get home on Sunday the monster tells me he sees her at the house. She calls me and tells me she is back and giving him one week. One week to what???
I no longer let the monster in that house the boys can either play at my house or outside but he is not going to play in their house with those crazy people! ARG!
I am now of 2 mindsets both of which make her crazy! She is either a drama queen and its not that bad and she just wants attention or it is that bad but she isn't willing to live with her parents and not drink, smoke, and wear little clothes to give her son a better life. I am so annoyed right now and have no desire to deal with her anymore. I know about batter women syndrome and don't discount that but she was out! her son was out and she had plans to get the last of her things why then did she go back? he didn't know where she was and he didn't leave the house Sat night, I know I was home and waiting for it???? Maybe he found her Sunday I don't know but I think she had enough people around her to help her, why would she go back. That is why I think it has to do with being able to drink and smoke living with him and she cannot do this with her parents!
Enough! I am done!
What happened? I asked her. She proceeds to tell me her son is with her family (whom she is not allowed to see b/c of her significant other) and as soon as the kid was gone the significant other (SO) started berating her (my word, def not hers) and he spit on her.
As she sits down on the couch to cry or vent or I don't know interrupt my perfectly peaceful Saturday alone I see her opening a cooler bag of beer. She pops the top and settles into my couch. This woman keeps getting crazier and crazier. As she is sitting on my couch she says she is leaving him and starts making calls. She finds a place to stay for the night but doesn't have a way over there b/c her car doesn't have tags and is no longer at the house. Gee do you see where this is going???? I offer to drive her where ever. Turns out the place isn't too far away so its fine but before I could drop her off she had to stop by the liquor store and by a case of beer. OMG!
So I get her and some things to a friends house and go about my business.
Sunday she texts me about some things she left at my house and we agree she will get them before she takes her son to school on Monday. When I finally get home on Sunday the monster tells me he sees her at the house. She calls me and tells me she is back and giving him one week. One week to what???
I no longer let the monster in that house the boys can either play at my house or outside but he is not going to play in their house with those crazy people! ARG!
I am now of 2 mindsets both of which make her crazy! She is either a drama queen and its not that bad and she just wants attention or it is that bad but she isn't willing to live with her parents and not drink, smoke, and wear little clothes to give her son a better life. I am so annoyed right now and have no desire to deal with her anymore. I know about batter women syndrome and don't discount that but she was out! her son was out and she had plans to get the last of her things why then did she go back? he didn't know where she was and he didn't leave the house Sat night, I know I was home and waiting for it???? Maybe he found her Sunday I don't know but I think she had enough people around her to help her, why would she go back. That is why I think it has to do with being able to drink and smoke living with him and she cannot do this with her parents!
Enough! I am done!
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Miss USA
So I watched this pageant Sunday night, not b/c its something I normally do but b/c the kid got into it while at the crazy neighbors house. I watched the last hour so I got to see all those lovely questions the contestants were asked and what not. This is what I observed along with my friend who was over at my house at the time:
Miss California has said she feels she came in second b/c she stated that her opinion is that marriage should be between a man and a woman. Perez Hilton has said he didn't vote for her b/c of this. I applaud her for sticking to her views while I disagree vehemently she has the right to her opinion. However I don't think she didn't win all b/c of this. I didn't like her b/c I (along with my friend) thought she was over confident and cocky!! When she was called as one of the final 5 she did a little arm thing while saying yes and didn't turn to the lady on her side like all the others did for hugs. Then when she joined her fellow finalists she didn't speak to them either. She was just rude looking. When she was standing with Miss North Carolina she wouldn't look at her and wouldn't offer her luck, Miss California just looked like a bitch!!! On top of all that her evening gown wasn't cute at all!!
Other observations: Miss North Carolina was the first one asked questions by the hosts and was given some ridiculous question about the world while all the other girls got personal questions.
Then they were each allowed to pick a number of the judge who was to ask them questions. Miss Arizona didn't even answer her question! she spoke in circles about being proud to be in a country where you could pick your political side??? I believe her question was on universal health care!!! She came in 2nd runner up!!
So what does that say about the competition??? The chick who spoke her mind albeit not a popular thought came in 1st runner up and the chick who didn't answer her question at all came in 2nd runner up. I think Miss California is a lot like the Miss Texas character in Miss Congeniality who thought she was going to win and didn't so got into a cat fight over the crown.
Just had to share b/c I am annoyed with Miss California today.
Miss California has said she feels she came in second b/c she stated that her opinion is that marriage should be between a man and a woman. Perez Hilton has said he didn't vote for her b/c of this. I applaud her for sticking to her views while I disagree vehemently she has the right to her opinion. However I don't think she didn't win all b/c of this. I didn't like her b/c I (along with my friend) thought she was over confident and cocky!! When she was called as one of the final 5 she did a little arm thing while saying yes and didn't turn to the lady on her side like all the others did for hugs. Then when she joined her fellow finalists she didn't speak to them either. She was just rude looking. When she was standing with Miss North Carolina she wouldn't look at her and wouldn't offer her luck, Miss California just looked like a bitch!!! On top of all that her evening gown wasn't cute at all!!
Other observations: Miss North Carolina was the first one asked questions by the hosts and was given some ridiculous question about the world while all the other girls got personal questions.
Then they were each allowed to pick a number of the judge who was to ask them questions. Miss Arizona didn't even answer her question! she spoke in circles about being proud to be in a country where you could pick your political side??? I believe her question was on universal health care!!! She came in 2nd runner up!!
So what does that say about the competition??? The chick who spoke her mind albeit not a popular thought came in 1st runner up and the chick who didn't answer her question at all came in 2nd runner up. I think Miss California is a lot like the Miss Texas character in Miss Congeniality who thought she was going to win and didn't so got into a cat fight over the crown.
Just had to share b/c I am annoyed with Miss California today.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Crazy neighbor
How is it that I always meet the crazy ones? The monster met a new friend 2 weeks or so ago and it was an interesting meeting with the mom to start with and I thought she was odd. The monster comes running in the house telling me a mom wants to meet me so I go outside to meet her and she immediately hugs me and yells "friends, I have friends". Ok fine she is odd but the child is nice and he and the monster get along well so I let it go.
Well today she calls me to "vent" telling me all crap about her significant other who is mentally abusive but never in front of the child. Right b/c kids can never tell when the shit is hitting the fan. So her significant other tells her how stupid she is and has isolated her from her friends and family and on and on. Holy Cow! She is in therapy which is why I think she is able to talk about what's going on but I don't think she really gets it. She thinks that b/c she has spent a year and a half living with him in his house that she is committed to him and doesn't want to start over. WTF??? get out!!!
Now I am conflicted do I continue to let the monster hang out over there? the child is well behaved so I don't want to punish the kids, they generally enjoy each others company but I don't think I want the monster exposed to the crazy stuff. I am going to have to talk to him to see if he has noticed anything, he would normally tell me about such stuff but now I am thinking he may not tell me if he is worried he might be able to play with the child.
I am worried if I try to help this woman, which is my nature, that I could be in physical danger b/c the guy she lives with may be off his rocker!!! ARG!
Well today she calls me to "vent" telling me all crap about her significant other who is mentally abusive but never in front of the child. Right b/c kids can never tell when the shit is hitting the fan. So her significant other tells her how stupid she is and has isolated her from her friends and family and on and on. Holy Cow! She is in therapy which is why I think she is able to talk about what's going on but I don't think she really gets it. She thinks that b/c she has spent a year and a half living with him in his house that she is committed to him and doesn't want to start over. WTF??? get out!!!
Now I am conflicted do I continue to let the monster hang out over there? the child is well behaved so I don't want to punish the kids, they generally enjoy each others company but I don't think I want the monster exposed to the crazy stuff. I am going to have to talk to him to see if he has noticed anything, he would normally tell me about such stuff but now I am thinking he may not tell me if he is worried he might be able to play with the child.
I am worried if I try to help this woman, which is my nature, that I could be in physical danger b/c the guy she lives with may be off his rocker!!! ARG!
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Someone needs a life in WV...
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29508066/?GT1=43001
As I was skimming the headlines today I can across this story and had to share. I cannot believe that this congress critter had nothing better to do with his time than try to ban barbie, now this is what is wrong with our government. ARG!
As I was skimming the headlines today I can across this story and had to share. I cannot believe that this congress critter had nothing better to do with his time than try to ban barbie, now this is what is wrong with our government. ARG!
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
The Bachelor
I do not watch this show b/c I think the people on these and other shows are ridiculous. But I am an admitted TV junkie so I read about this crap b/c its everywhere (well at least on all my favorite sites). I knew this guy was dumped by the Bachelorette a season or so ago and was a favorite, I also knew he had a kid. I have a real problem with him putting his son through this!!! Maybe I am too much of a prude with my child but I refuse to introduce my child to anyone after such a short time! I try very hard to keep those kind of relationships away from the monster until I know the guy is going to be around for a little while b/c I don't want a ton of men in and out of his life! I think its wrong.
Ok off my soapbox and back to this duchebag! I love the yahoo thing (because I don't know what to call it) prime time in no time. Its hysterical and gives you just enough of the crap to make me laugh. So I checked it out today and this stupid man was all over it. I watched his proposal to girl A, his dismissal of girl B for girl A. Then he dismissed girl A and tells her he wants to try things with girl B. WTF??? He told girl B he was in love with girl A, does he know what he wants??? probably not so why in the hell would he involve his son in this nonsense? Why would he do this to girl A and why is girl B ok with this??? He told you he loved someone else but ooppps he was mistaken??? Well what is going to happen now is he going to change his mind and go hang out with bachelorette who also made a play for him in the season finale?? I mean come on now, what is it about this guy? I saw a guy in flannel flannel and more flannel! granted I only watched clips b/c I cannot stomach those shows unless I am completely making fun of them and at present I have no one to sit with me and laugh.
That is all for now, I am just astonished by this duchebag and had to share but should I be? I think that is more the question I need to answer...why am I astonished and why did I take the time to blog about this? I need a life...
Ok off my soapbox and back to this duchebag! I love the yahoo thing (because I don't know what to call it) prime time in no time. Its hysterical and gives you just enough of the crap to make me laugh. So I checked it out today and this stupid man was all over it. I watched his proposal to girl A, his dismissal of girl B for girl A. Then he dismissed girl A and tells her he wants to try things with girl B. WTF??? He told girl B he was in love with girl A, does he know what he wants??? probably not so why in the hell would he involve his son in this nonsense? Why would he do this to girl A and why is girl B ok with this??? He told you he loved someone else but ooppps he was mistaken??? Well what is going to happen now is he going to change his mind and go hang out with bachelorette who also made a play for him in the season finale?? I mean come on now, what is it about this guy? I saw a guy in flannel flannel and more flannel! granted I only watched clips b/c I cannot stomach those shows unless I am completely making fun of them and at present I have no one to sit with me and laugh.
That is all for now, I am just astonished by this duchebag and had to share but should I be? I think that is more the question I need to answer...why am I astonished and why did I take the time to blog about this? I need a life...
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Twilight!!
I have become obsessed with this series!! I got them the week between Christmas and New year, read non stop until I finished all 4 books. Then within a month re-read them again, then I found the authors website and have read everything on there about all the books and the book that might come out that is a companion to Twilight.
I read everything about this series and about the movies. I would talk about it non stop but that gets on peoples nerves. LOL. I even bought a "team edward" t-shirt, I know when the DVD comes out, its still over a month away!! There is a book about the movie coming out too that I am thinking about buying too.
This is just bad, I really need to find something else to read to become engrossed in b/c I think my obsession is unhealthy!!!
I read everything about this series and about the movies. I would talk about it non stop but that gets on peoples nerves. LOL. I even bought a "team edward" t-shirt, I know when the DVD comes out, its still over a month away!! There is a book about the movie coming out too that I am thinking about buying too.
This is just bad, I really need to find something else to read to become engrossed in b/c I think my obsession is unhealthy!!!
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Weed
Here's the story. I was at lunch yesterday and my phone rings, I notice that the number is from my son's school and immediately I groan b/c lately he has been getting phantom illnesses which makes him call me. Here's how the conversation went:
Me: Hello
Principal: Hell, I am trying to reach M's mother
Me: This is her
Principal: This is your childs principal and I need to talk to you, he is not in trouble but he did come see me today.
Me: umm ok (in my head, oh crap oh crap oh crap)
Principal: You son's teacher sent him to me today b/c while in vocabulary class he and another little boy got into a conversation about weed. When I asked him why he was talking about it, he said it just popped into his head.
Me: what?? (in my head, WTF??? where did he get this, what did I say OMFG I am that parent)
Principal: Now I know with things going on right now he has probably heard some things in the news but I told him he cannot talk about them in school and I hope you will reiterate that to him at home.
Me: Oh I will (in my head, did we even talk about Michael Phelps, what about MTV what has he been watching I thought I was there too, did I miss something?? Oh no I have that kid! )
Principal: He is not in trouble and he is concerned that would call you but I had to. He also wouldn't eat lunch today he said he was sick over the weekend and didn't think he should eat.
Me: Thank you for calling I will talk to him this evening.
Hang up
So now the freak out starts! Why was he talking about Weed, what does he know about it? Where did he hear about it. I always joke that I have a teenager, my child has always been an old man stuck in a little kids body but I am not ready for this I cannot have this talk with him, OMG!
So what do I do? I call my dad who laughs b/c his grandson is talking about weed, then he tells me to use Michael Phelps as an excuse and he thinks the school over reacted. What do I hear. Na na na na your kid talks about weed.
Then the question what in vocabulary class could have him think of weed?????
So I continue freaking out during lunch and the rest of the day at work, thankfully I had a boat load waiting for me when I got back to distract me from this some what.
I race home to get him from my aunt who picked him up early and fed him. Good now I can just talk to him...
Me: So how was school today?
Child: Good (looks nervous)
Me: How was vocabulary?
Child: fine
Me: (annoyed now) did anything happen in school today?
Child: No.
Me: Ok now your principal called today about your conversation.
Child: Oh
Me: I am not mad at you I just have to know what made you think of weed in vocabulary.
This is where he goes into a long story about homophones and talking about those in class and I am thinking great he thought of weed as a homophone! Nope he just thought of Michael Phelps. (ok so we did talk about this last night how could I forget??). It turns out all he said was that Michael Phelps got in trouble for smoking weed. Another student heard this and told the teacher who promptly sent mine to the office.
So my freak out was not necessary but OMG!!! The teacher didn't even bother to figure out what was going on??? I wonder is my child going to be known as the one who brought up weed in 3rd grade???
I know a few years from now this will be funny to me and I am sure I am going to tease him about this as a teen but right now I am still a little freaked.
Just thought I would share my lovely day with you.
Me: Hello
Principal: Hell, I am trying to reach M's mother
Me: This is her
Principal: This is your childs principal and I need to talk to you, he is not in trouble but he did come see me today.
Me: umm ok (in my head, oh crap oh crap oh crap)
Principal: You son's teacher sent him to me today b/c while in vocabulary class he and another little boy got into a conversation about weed. When I asked him why he was talking about it, he said it just popped into his head.
Me: what?? (in my head, WTF??? where did he get this, what did I say OMFG I am that parent)
Principal: Now I know with things going on right now he has probably heard some things in the news but I told him he cannot talk about them in school and I hope you will reiterate that to him at home.
Me: Oh I will (in my head, did we even talk about Michael Phelps, what about MTV what has he been watching I thought I was there too, did I miss something?? Oh no I have that kid! )
Principal: He is not in trouble and he is concerned that would call you but I had to. He also wouldn't eat lunch today he said he was sick over the weekend and didn't think he should eat.
Me: Thank you for calling I will talk to him this evening.
Hang up
So now the freak out starts! Why was he talking about Weed, what does he know about it? Where did he hear about it. I always joke that I have a teenager, my child has always been an old man stuck in a little kids body but I am not ready for this I cannot have this talk with him, OMG!
So what do I do? I call my dad who laughs b/c his grandson is talking about weed, then he tells me to use Michael Phelps as an excuse and he thinks the school over reacted. What do I hear. Na na na na your kid talks about weed.
Then the question what in vocabulary class could have him think of weed?????
So I continue freaking out during lunch and the rest of the day at work, thankfully I had a boat load waiting for me when I got back to distract me from this some what.
I race home to get him from my aunt who picked him up early and fed him. Good now I can just talk to him...
Me: So how was school today?
Child: Good (looks nervous)
Me: How was vocabulary?
Child: fine
Me: (annoyed now) did anything happen in school today?
Child: No.
Me: Ok now your principal called today about your conversation.
Child: Oh
Me: I am not mad at you I just have to know what made you think of weed in vocabulary.
This is where he goes into a long story about homophones and talking about those in class and I am thinking great he thought of weed as a homophone! Nope he just thought of Michael Phelps. (ok so we did talk about this last night how could I forget??). It turns out all he said was that Michael Phelps got in trouble for smoking weed. Another student heard this and told the teacher who promptly sent mine to the office.
So my freak out was not necessary but OMG!!! The teacher didn't even bother to figure out what was going on??? I wonder is my child going to be known as the one who brought up weed in 3rd grade???
I know a few years from now this will be funny to me and I am sure I am going to tease him about this as a teen but right now I am still a little freaked.
Just thought I would share my lovely day with you.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Brilliant Mom Moment
Today the monster and I went to Best Buy to use our gift cards. He wanted the new Hinder CD, there were 2 versions at the store. One that was supposed to come with a free down loaded ring tone and wallpaper and extra songs, it was only $1 more than the other version so I thought why not. Well my dumb ass didn't look at the parental warning on the cover that said "adult content" so I open the CD in the car so that we can listen to it and am accosted with boobies. All naked boobies!!! everywhere. I had to tell him he cannot have the CD case, I know that eventually I will have to deal with puberty but I don't want to push him into it. Good golly, now I have to start reading warnings, crap!!!
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Work sucks!!
A quick work rant...
I changed positions at the end of Oct and the transition was not a smooth one, in fact I hate this job!! It was getting slightly more bareable until yesterday when all hell broke loose and there isn't anything I can do but watch it spin out of controll.
So my job depends on others doing their jobs and this one person in my office will not do hers.
Example 1. She was asked about a job b/c corporate was asking about it. Corp said there was material on site that needed to be installed. So 3 emails and a face to face later she scheduled it. However she never bothered to check that all the material was there. So I emailed corp and told them we would be in today only to find out she didn't check her shit. So now corp is mad. I am mad, my salesperson is mad but the one person who should be mad doesn't appear to be...her boss. He should take her aside and talk to her.
Example 2. There was a job that was a must be done. A different company for this one but still corporate involvement. So that corp called and scheduled things and it was known by all that it had to be done on the date that was given. Well guess what the installer didn't show. Now why in the hell didn't she know, why did I get a call from corp informing me? I should have known so that I could run interfernece. ARG!! Now my other sales person is mad, a different corp but again the boss man doesn't appear to be mad!!
I am so annoyed. I am going to have to create a tracking system for all orders in this persons area and stay on top of her doing her job as well as mine so that I can avoid these things in the future. This infuriates me b/c its not my job any more to schedule things, its hers. I think the boss needs to take her into his office and have a talk about her system b/c obviously it isn't working!!! Then she needs remedial training b/c again obviously she doesn't get her job that she has been at for over a year??????
I NEED TO FIND A NEW JOB AND SOON B/C I AM GOING TO EXPLODE HERE!!!!!!!!
On another cat lady observation: My boy cat sleeps like a human, he stretches out and uses a pillow, its so funny I want to take pictures each night but I cannot be that big of a crazy cat lady.
I changed positions at the end of Oct and the transition was not a smooth one, in fact I hate this job!! It was getting slightly more bareable until yesterday when all hell broke loose and there isn't anything I can do but watch it spin out of controll.
So my job depends on others doing their jobs and this one person in my office will not do hers.
Example 1. She was asked about a job b/c corporate was asking about it. Corp said there was material on site that needed to be installed. So 3 emails and a face to face later she scheduled it. However she never bothered to check that all the material was there. So I emailed corp and told them we would be in today only to find out she didn't check her shit. So now corp is mad. I am mad, my salesperson is mad but the one person who should be mad doesn't appear to be...her boss. He should take her aside and talk to her.
Example 2. There was a job that was a must be done. A different company for this one but still corporate involvement. So that corp called and scheduled things and it was known by all that it had to be done on the date that was given. Well guess what the installer didn't show. Now why in the hell didn't she know, why did I get a call from corp informing me? I should have known so that I could run interfernece. ARG!! Now my other sales person is mad, a different corp but again the boss man doesn't appear to be mad!!
I am so annoyed. I am going to have to create a tracking system for all orders in this persons area and stay on top of her doing her job as well as mine so that I can avoid these things in the future. This infuriates me b/c its not my job any more to schedule things, its hers. I think the boss needs to take her into his office and have a talk about her system b/c obviously it isn't working!!! Then she needs remedial training b/c again obviously she doesn't get her job that she has been at for over a year??????
I NEED TO FIND A NEW JOB AND SOON B/C I AM GOING TO EXPLODE HERE!!!!!!!!
On another cat lady observation: My boy cat sleeps like a human, he stretches out and uses a pillow, its so funny I want to take pictures each night but I cannot be that big of a crazy cat lady.
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Still a cat lady
As I was going to bed last night I had to scoop the litter and had to add yet another thing to the growing list of reason's I am a crazy cat lady...
I was so happy with my new pooper scooper that it wasn't funny. It works so much better than the old one.
then the sad fact hit me... I am a crazy cat lady.
I was so happy with my new pooper scooper that it wasn't funny. It works so much better than the old one.
then the sad fact hit me... I am a crazy cat lady.
Pictures
So I am so excited that I was able to post a picture!!! It only took like 10 tries but I did it :) Enjoy now I might post more pictures since I know how but I also have to remember how too.
Crazy cat lady...
I just realized its Saturday night and I am having a Gilmore Girls marathon with my cat curled up on my chest. This leads me to the sad realization that I am becoming a crazy cat lady. ARG!!!
This isn't the only evidence that I can show you either...I uploaded my Christmas pictures and I have more of cats (mine and my mother's) than I do of anything else. I need a life!! One that doesn't involve me getting wrapped up in a book series that keeps me holed up in my house for a week then to turn to obsessing over a canceled TV series.
Based on this I am turning into a crazy cat lady with no life. Great!!!
Here is just one of my examples:
This isn't the only evidence that I can show you either...I uploaded my Christmas pictures and I have more of cats (mine and my mother's) than I do of anything else. I need a life!! One that doesn't involve me getting wrapped up in a book series that keeps me holed up in my house for a week then to turn to obsessing over a canceled TV series.
Based on this I am turning into a crazy cat lady with no life. Great!!!
Here is just one of my examples:
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